Love and Partnership

As quickly as two people find themselves in a relationship, they find it can end just as fast. That’s because there’s a significant and common misunderstanding of what it means to engage in a serious relationship with another person. Most people want to be with a person as they presently view them without the understanding of how moments in life can alter realities. We’re attracted to their physique, their status, their financial stability and the other clichés, but it’s not always lasting. Life happens. People age. They gain weight, lose jobs and have issues outside of the relationship that affect them forever. What you have to decide before investing serious time with that person is whether or not you can be life partners or if you’re just in it for the moment.

There’s nothing wrong with “passing time” with someone as long as it’s established that it’s more of a mutual sharing of space than a declaration of commitment. It’s only when you have conversations about the future and when you make plans to occupy that time with them, that the moments you share now begin to be about something more than just fun and games. It sets a foundation for trust and security within the confines of the relationship that can only be sustained when the intent is to grow “together” and be “life partners.” Life partners meaning, being there for one another as a team. Much like a seesaw, it takes two. It takes one to lift up the other and both to create a balance. But people have to stop being too selfish to elevate their partner if they themselves hope to rise.